Is Agape a perfect “God-like” love? All 328 hits of partial matches of “love” in the New Testament are considered in this study to determine if “agape” is only used to refer to a “God-like” love.
Some definitions are in order.
Strong’s concordance:
G25
ἀγαπάω = agapaō = ag-ap-ah’-o
Perhaps from ἄγαν agan (much; or compare [H5689]); to love (in a social or moral sense): – (be-) love (-ed). Compare G5368.
G26
ἀγάπη = agapē = ag-ah’-pay
From G25; love, that is, affection or benevolence; specifically (plural) a love feast: – (feast of) charity ([-ably]), dear, love.
Contrasted with “phileo”
G5368
φιλέω = phileō = fil-eh’-o
From G5384; to be a friend to (fond of [an individual or an object]), that is, have affection for (denoting personal attachment, as a matter of sentiment or feeling; while G25 is wider, embracing especially the judgment and the deliberate assent of the will as a matter of principle, duty and propriety: the two thus stand related very much as G2309 and G1014, or as G2372 and G3563 respectively; the former being chiefly of the heart and the latter of the head); specifically to kiss (as a mark of tenderness): – kiss, love.
There are at least 6 places in the Bible showing that “agape” can have meanings different than a “God-like” love. It can even mean a bad love!
agape:
Luke 6:32 For if ye love them which love you, what thank have ye? for sinners also love those that love them.
Here we see that sinners “agape” each other.
Luke 11:43 Woe unto you, Pharisees! for ye love the uppermost seats in the synagogues, and greetings in the markets.
Jesus condemns the Pharisees for having “agape”!
John 3:19 And this is the condemnation, that light is come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil.
Jesus condemns men for having “agape”!!
2Timothy 4:10 For Demas hath forsaken me, having loved this present world, and is departed unto Thessalonica; Crescens to Galatia, Titus unto Dalmatia.
Paul rebukes Demas for having “agape”.
2Peter 2:15 Which have forsaken the right way, and are gone astray, following the way of Balaam the son of Bosor, who loved the wages of unrighteousness;
Peter shows that Balaam’s “agape” was bad.
1John 2:15 Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him.
If any man has this “agape”, the “agape” of the Father is not in him.
So we clearly see that there are times in the Bible when “agape” refers to a love of something definitely not of God. How about the “phileo” kind of love? Is it just a “human” love, or “brotherly” love as often stated? While it is true that “Philadelphia” means “brotherly love”, there is nothing inherent in the word to signify that it has the meaning of a somehow less than “Godly” type of love.
phileo:
John 5:20 For the Father loveth the Son, and sheweth him all things that himself doeth: and he will shew him greater works than these, that ye may marvel.
The Father “phileo”s the Son, showing conclusively that “phileo” can also refer to the love of God.
John 11:3 Therefore his sisters sent unto him, saying, Lord, behold, he whom thou lovest is sick.
Jesus had “phileo” for Lazarus.
John 16:27 For the Father himself loveth you, because ye have loved me, and have believed that I came out from God.
The Father “phileo”s us because we “phileo” the Father. Isn’t this perfect love?
John 20:2 Then she runneth, and cometh to Simon Peter, and to the other disciple, whom Jesus loved, and saith unto them, They have taken away the Lord out of the sepulchre, and we know not where they have laid him.
Jesus “phileo”s John.
1Corinthians 16:22 If any man love not the Lord Jesus Christ, let him be Anathema Maranatha.
If we don’t have “phileo” for Jesus, we are anathema!!!
Titus 3:4 But after that the kindness and love of God our Saviour toward man appeared,
God our Saviour has “phileo” towards us 🙂
Titus 3:15 All that are with me salute thee. Greet them that love us in the faith. Grace be with you all. Amen.
Paul says to his brethren in Christ to greet those who have “phileo” for him and his companions.
Revelation 3:19 As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten: be zealous therefore, and repent.
Jesus rebukes and chastens all those he “phileo”s.
With all this evidence, why do we still hear of “agape” being some kind of super-human “God-like” perfect love, and “phileo” being some kind of sub-perfect “human” love? I’m not sure, but guess that someone was studying to get a doctorate of divinity (above Jesus?!) and had to come up with something new and clever to catch the attention of those critiquing his thesis, and in reading something original into the text in John 21, got his doctorate, and the result is a confused remnant church today.
Lord, please help us to follow your straight word, and study for ourselves to show ourselves approved unto you. Thank you for loving us no matter what kind of Greek words you had the writers of the Bible use, and may we have that same love for you and for each other every day.